Published Sep 30, 2013Chvrches singer Lauren Mayberry has a message for music fans who interact with her band on social media: stop being sexist. After receiving numerous crude and misogynistic messages on Facebook, the Scottish pop singer has published an editorial in response.
The furor began this past Thursday (September 26), when the band posted a transcript of an interaction with a fan who asked Mayberry out to dinner, saying they would "make superior love together." The group added, "Please stop sending us emails like this. This is one of the more polite ones."
The post attracted over 900 comments, ranging from encouragements to lewd messages like "This isn't rape culture. You'll know rape culture when I'm raping you, bitch."
Mayberry subsequently wrote an editorial about the matter for the Guardian. She particularly addressed a commenter who argued that, "It's just one of those things you'll need to learn to deal with."
While she agreed that criticism and bad reviews were fair game, she argued, "Is the casual objectification of women so commonplace that we should all just suck it up, roll over and accept defeat? I hope not. Objectification, whatever its form, is not something anyone should have to 'just deal with.'"
She noted that she reads every message that is sent to Chvrches on Facebook, and while the bulk of them are positive, the band also get a fair number of "condescending and offensive" notes.
She wrote, "I am embarrassed to admit that I have had more than one prolonged toilet cry and a 'Come on, get a hold of yourself, you got this' conversation with myself in a bathroom mirror when particularly exasperated and tired out."
She additionally clarified her views on feminism — that she is not anti-men and "seeks equality between the sexes" — and acknowledges that men in the public eye likely receive similar messages. She further adds that she isn't looking to become a martyr, and wants Chvrches' focus to be music.
Read the full editorial here.
Chvrches released The Bones of What You Believe in North America on September 24 through Glassnote.