Last week, Beach Slang's former manager Charlie Lowe accused the band's vocalist and guitarist James Alex of emotional and psychological abuse, and now, Alex's family has issued a statement regarding the allegations, in addition to explaining that the band "is over."
In an Instagram post from earlier today, Alex's family shared that he has no plans to return to music and has entered an inpatient facility after attempting suicide.
"James was starting treatment before these allegations were made, and is now in an inpatient facility after attempting to take his life," they wrote. "He is getting the help he needs and will be on a true path to recovery. Please know you've been heard. While it may have not felt like enough, or that it came soon enough, he has tried to make amends and reconcile his behaviours."
Alex's family's statement comes following a lengthy Twitter thread of accusations from Lowe, including but not limited to complaints of verbal abuse, gaslighting, making her want to die by suicide and more.
"I endured constant emotional, psychological & narcissistic abuse from James Alex for years," Lowe explained, "I have learned he sells his too-kind-to-be-true persona to hide that he is truly the most selfish horrible person I will ever meet. I was diagnosed with C-PTSD from how he treated me."
She continued: "So basically, fuck him. Fuck his made up music personality. Fuck his fake kindness. Fuck him for using me almost daily. Fuck him for making me want to commit s*****e to get out. Fuck him for my therapy bills & medication. Fuck him for alienating me from everyone I love."
See Alex's family's full statement below, where you can also find Lowe's response.
James is not perfect, and never claimed to be. After a lifetime of suicidal ideation, Beach Slang was simply intended to be an outlet of positivity in rock and roll, and an attempt to heal himself and any sad or broken friends he met along the way. His "fake music persona" wasn't some facade derived with malice to dupe or harm anyone, it was a coping mechanism created to overcome his struggles. Yes he had moments of compulsiveness, emotional instability, and chaotic relationships, but none of his actions were intentional or meant to hurt or harm anyone, certainly not those who cared for or believed in him.
They were an unfortunate result of unimaginable childhood trauma, violent physical, sexual, and emotional abuse and years of untreated resultant severe mental health issues. James is diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder, Paranoid Schizophrenia, and now Borderline Personality Disorder. This is not to invalidate or negate anyone's feelings, or experiences, it is only to explain the unexplained or unseen cause to the effects, as the internet can be very black and white, and mental illness is largely a grey area.
While mental illness does not excuse anyone to cause others emotional duress, it should at least be acknowledged that it may cause one to unknowingly hurt others and themselves with their words and actions. James was starting treatment before these allegations were made, and is now in an inpatient facility after attempting to take his life. He is getting the help he needs and will be on a true path to recovery. Please know you've been heard. While it may have not felt like enough, or that it came soon enough, he has tried to make amends and reconcile his behaviors.
James is not a monster. He is a flawed and complex human being. He is also a father, a son, a husband, and a friend to those still willing to believe in him. He never intended to cause anyone pain. And all parties involved were aware of and could recognize his issues and tried to help him to the best of their abilities at the time. Unfortunately, the help he needed was beyond the scope of family or friends with good intentions. He just wants to stay alive.
In an Instagram post from earlier today, Alex's family shared that he has no plans to return to music and has entered an inpatient facility after attempting suicide.
"James was starting treatment before these allegations were made, and is now in an inpatient facility after attempting to take his life," they wrote. "He is getting the help he needs and will be on a true path to recovery. Please know you've been heard. While it may have not felt like enough, or that it came soon enough, he has tried to make amends and reconcile his behaviours."
Alex's family's statement comes following a lengthy Twitter thread of accusations from Lowe, including but not limited to complaints of verbal abuse, gaslighting, making her want to die by suicide and more.
"I endured constant emotional, psychological & narcissistic abuse from James Alex for years," Lowe explained, "I have learned he sells his too-kind-to-be-true persona to hide that he is truly the most selfish horrible person I will ever meet. I was diagnosed with C-PTSD from how he treated me."
She continued: "So basically, fuck him. Fuck his made up music personality. Fuck his fake kindness. Fuck him for using me almost daily. Fuck him for making me want to commit s*****e to get out. Fuck him for my therapy bills & medication. Fuck him for alienating me from everyone I love."
See Alex's family's full statement below, where you can also find Lowe's response.
James is not perfect, and never claimed to be. After a lifetime of suicidal ideation, Beach Slang was simply intended to be an outlet of positivity in rock and roll, and an attempt to heal himself and any sad or broken friends he met along the way. His "fake music persona" wasn't some facade derived with malice to dupe or harm anyone, it was a coping mechanism created to overcome his struggles. Yes he had moments of compulsiveness, emotional instability, and chaotic relationships, but none of his actions were intentional or meant to hurt or harm anyone, certainly not those who cared for or believed in him.
They were an unfortunate result of unimaginable childhood trauma, violent physical, sexual, and emotional abuse and years of untreated resultant severe mental health issues. James is diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder, Paranoid Schizophrenia, and now Borderline Personality Disorder. This is not to invalidate or negate anyone's feelings, or experiences, it is only to explain the unexplained or unseen cause to the effects, as the internet can be very black and white, and mental illness is largely a grey area.
While mental illness does not excuse anyone to cause others emotional duress, it should at least be acknowledged that it may cause one to unknowingly hurt others and themselves with their words and actions. James was starting treatment before these allegations were made, and is now in an inpatient facility after attempting to take his life. He is getting the help he needs and will be on a true path to recovery. Please know you've been heard. While it may have not felt like enough, or that it came soon enough, he has tried to make amends and reconcile his behaviors.
James is not a monster. He is a flawed and complex human being. He is also a father, a son, a husband, and a friend to those still willing to believe in him. He never intended to cause anyone pain. And all parties involved were aware of and could recognize his issues and tried to help him to the best of their abilities at the time. Unfortunately, the help he needed was beyond the scope of family or friends with good intentions. He just wants to stay alive.
